Don’t Forget to Breathe

Don’t Forget to Breathe


In the past year or so I have noticed more and more sites dedicated to helping find Missing Persons. I say bravo to each and every one of you trying to make a difference. But I also come here with some advice. It is the most important thing you can do, and that is breathe.


We have been doing this for well over a year and I also have background in Law Enforcement so it has been a long time for me. I say from experience that it is very easy to get caught up in all the missing persons cases. We celebrate when they are found, worry while they are missing and cry when they are found deceased. It can get very morbid and depressing when we post more people everyday. The high points we cherish and the sad we can’t let go.


So always remember when things are too intense just walk away, breathe. Do anything you can to remind yourself why you started this noble task. Why you allow yourself to get on this Roller coaster of emotions to be devastated on a daily basis. One way is get a partner to help you. Someone you know and trust to help carry the burden and be able to discuss how you feel with. If you don’t have help or a release you will burn out fast.


People read in our Lions Den some of the funny and mean things Gaia and I say to each other. But at the same time they know we don’t mean any of it. It is part of our release and being friends as long as she and I have helps. We both need the opportunity to yell and scream at one another because we both understand how the other feels.



You will lose sleep over some of the people you post, but you have to allow yourself to have a life at the same time. Never ever feel weird about asking the owners of other sites for help. You’d be surprised how people like ourselves will band together and lend a hand. We all have the same goal to bring them home. For example we encourage members and visitors to copy anything we have on our site that they need. We don’t yell “You stole my posts” because all we have ever cared about is getting the information out there to do some good. Also if you have information another doesn’t post it (If sites allow guests to post, or join) or send it to the owners. No one turns down help in this field.


So in closing I just want to remind you that you aren’t alone in any of this. Many others are in your shoes and understand.

Most important, don’t forget to breathe.