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Thursday, June 08, 2006

Don’t Forget to Breathe

Don’t Forget to Breathe

In the past year or so I have noticed more and more sites dedicated to helping find Missing Persons. I say bravo to each and every one of you trying to make a difference. But I also come here with some advice. It is the most important thing you can do, and that is breathe.

We have been doing this for well over a year and I also have background in Law Enforcement so it has been a long time for me. I say from experience that it is very easy to get caught up in all the missing persons cases. We celebrate when they are found, worry while they are missing and cry when they are found deceased. It can get very morbid and depressing when we post more people everyday. The high points we cherish and the sad we can’t let go.

So always remember when things are too intense just walk away, breathe. Do anything you can to remind yourself why you started this noble task. Why you allow yourself to get on this Roller coaster of emotions to be devastated on a daily basis. One way is get a partner to help you. Someone you know and trust to help carry the burden and be able to discuss how you feel with. If you don’t have help or a release you will burn out fast.

People read in our Lions Den some of the funny and mean things Gaia and I say to each other. But at the same time they know we don’t mean any of it. It is part of our release and being friends as long as she and I have helps. We both need the opportunity to yell and scream at one another because we both understand how the other feels.

You will lose sleep over some of the people you post, but you have to allow yourself to have a life at the same time. Never ever feel weird about asking the owners of other sites for help. You’d be surprised how people like ourselves will band together and lend a hand. We all have the same goal to bring them home. For example we encourage members and visitors to copy anything we have on our site that they need. We don’t yell “You stole my posts” because all we have ever cared about is getting the information out there to do some good. Also if you have information another doesn’t post it (If sites allow guests to post, or join) or send it to the owners. No one turns down help in this field.

So in closing I just want to remind you that you aren’t alone in any of this. Many others are in your shoes and understand.

Most important, don’t forget to breathe.


  • At Thursday, June 08, 2006 5:14:00 PM, Blogger Home Sweet Home said…

    Great advice! I have only been blogging since Jan. and I don't blog so much about the missing. But I have noticed some days that I am reluctant to even log onto my site. The cases are heartbreaking, and often the stories are horrendous and even after the post is written, it stays with you for a time.
    I know when I start feeling reluctant it is a symtom. And that I need to walk away for a time.
    Yet I also know that I am lucky. It isn't me or my family. I cannot imagine how the families cope, as they can't walk away.

  • At Sunday, July 02, 2006 3:36:00 AM, Blogger From Whispers to Roars Admin said…

    I tried to answer you when you posted but blogger had pms again.

    We have many people on our forum who do live it. Ali Gilmore's family, Brandy Hanna's mom,Ruth Hoffman's daughter to just name a few.

    It can be hard,heartbreaking and all around morbid. But we can't forget why we do it. So many of thses people (not cases) are lost in the media or never even make print. They need sites like your and ours to shout it from the rooftops "HEY This human being has vanished,Pay attention"

    I just wish we could all ban together as one very loud voice and make others notice. This can happen to ANYONE!!!

    How do people miss this,it could happen to my family tomorrow,even with all I have tought my children. NO ONE is safe from this. That is why I do this. And my partner will agree (I know a shock we do agree) All the knowledge in the world can't stop it but we can sure try.

    We can't look at a missing person and say oh well not my problem. Ok I ranted enough...for now :)

  • At Sunday, July 02, 2006 3:38:00 AM, Blogger From Whispers to Roars Admin said…

    Sorry for the typo's when I rant i forget how to spell LOL But almost everyone on the internet understands typoneese.


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